I’m Done Getting My Heart Broken — These Are My Rules.

I know that getting my heart broken is pretty much inevitable, but that doesn’t mean I’ll go down without a fight. I’m going to be as careful as I can, so I don’t end up getting screwed over too many times in a row. I’m smarter now than I ever was before, which is why I won’t give you the chance to break my heart.

1. I’M NOT AFRAID TO WALK AWAY.
I’m not so desperate for love that I’ll lower my standards in order to be in a relationship. If you treat me like crap, then I have no problem ending things with you.

2. I WON’T FALL FOR A**HOLES ANYMORE.
I can’t stop myself from crushing on an a**hole, but I can stop myself from dating one. I’ve been with so many losers that I know all of the red flags now. That means there’s zero chance that I’ll waste my time with you once you show your true colors.

3. I’LL REMAIN SINGLE FOR AS LONG AS I HAVE TO.
I have no problem with waiting a few months, or even years, until I elife. a serious relationship. I’m in no hurry to settle down. After all, single life isn’t as bad as being in an unhealthy relationship.

4. I WON’T DEAL WITH MIXED SIGNALS.
If you make my life more complicated from the start, then dating you is just asking for trouble. That’s why I’m no longer willing to date men who play games. I can wait until I find someone who actually tells the truth instead of hiding behind bullsh*t dating rules.

5. I WON’T CONFUSE LUST FOR LOVE.
In the past, I was confused about what love really meant, but now I know. It isn’t just about finding someone attractive and wanting to invite them into bed. It’s so much more than that.

6. I WON’T DATE A MAN I CAN’T TRUST.
I’m not going to get cheated on. You know why? The second you prove to me that I can’t trust you, I’m going to walk away without thinking twice about it, no matter how much history we have or how much I love you.

7. I WON’T LET LOVE BECOME MY MAIN PRIORITY.
If I became obsessed with you, then it would feel like my whole world was collapsing when you broke up with me. But if I balance my love life with a thriving social life and career, then getting dumped won’t be all that bad. It’ll still hurt, but the pain will be bearable.

8. I WON’T GIVE MY HEART AWAY EASILY.
I’m not going to fall for the first man who pays me a little bit of attention. I’m going to hold out for someone who truly deserves my love. You won’t end up breaking my heart, because I’m only going to give my heart to men who are worth my while.

9. MY HEART IS MADE OF STEEL.
You might upset me, but you’re not going to end up breaking my heart. I’ve been hurt so many times before that I’ve become numb to pain. Besides, I’m way too strong to let some random man ruin my life

Meet me on the Battlefield

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GZrddJPGp1I

After a girl gets out of a toxic relationship, she's single for a long time. At first, it's lonely. In the beginning, it's hard. For a little awhile, it even hurts. But after a certain amount of time, she embraces being single and finds it empowering knowing that she doesn't need a man to be happy. But once a girl gets comfortable with being single, it's hard for her to be mentally attracted to anyone. Once a girl gets familiar with being on her own, it's hard for her to be emotionally connected to anyone. Once a girl gets used to taking caring of herself, it's hard for her to be dependent on anyone. The reason behind that is, she's not trying to go back to that dark place she was in before, she's not trying to waste her time on a guy who's gonna turn out to be undeserving, and she's not trying to end up with the wrong one. She's spent a lot of time detoxifying herself and finding herself again and the last thing she needs is for another toxic guy to come along and cause her to lose herself again. So yeah, it may require extra attention, it may require extra effort, and it may require extra time but if you somehow manage to get her to not want to be single anymore, then you're gonna get a girl who's whole again, who's secure enough, and who's ready to love and be loved again.

Breathe

Dearest Me:

2016 has been a rough year with an emotionally roller coaster. It will get better in time. Focus on yourself and Love yourself. You've met some great and amazing people this year to cover what was left from 2015. You've lost some friends and gained some new ones. Be yourself and no matter what people see you as, they will always remember you as some one nice & kind.

2017 will be better I promise. Its all from within yourself. Its all the changes from within you. Never forget who you are. 7 days til Christmas and 14 days left til New Years Eve. Make the best of these last few days of 2016. Give as much as you can to those who needs the love. Its all about the thoughts that count. Be good to those who are in need. Be the best of who you can be.

Love Sunshine

 

This is who I remember you as. 

2017 Smile more

Developing unreciprocated feelings

There are certainly girls who are able to hook up with their guy friends and maintain that friendship relationship. But it’s rare, and it’s because there are feelings involved. When we hook up with the random dude from the bar, this isn’t someone we know, respect, or care about (no matter how hot he is). But when we have sex with one of our guy friends, it’s different, because even if you don’t have romantic feelings for this person, you do have some kind of feelings for him, or else you wouldn’t have been friends with him to begin with. And for reasons we can’t explain, those feelings tend of get all kinds of messed up the second we see each other naked.

They can act as a “placeholder” (a temporary relationship until something better comes along) or as a “trial run” (checking to see if you’re compatible with the person before getting serious).

The moral of our story is simple. When it comes to sex with a friend, you may need to make the decision to keep your clothes on in order to keep the friendship intact, particularly if you value the friendship more than the sex. Any time we cross that line with one of our guy friends, we take a gamble, with the odds being in favor of miscommunication, hurt feelings, and the ending of a friendship. Now, that’s not to say that the gamble doesn’t pay off occasionally; someone is that 1 percent who finds a relationship, and someone else is that 1percent who can go back to being friends. But like we said, 98 percent of the time, it doesn’t work out with a movie ending. You need to ask yourself if you’re willing to take the risk, because, as our mamas taught us a long time ago, you should never gamble anything you are truly afraid to lose.