I’ve learned these truths about myself by flipping over one tiny puzzle piece at a time. Realizing that I won’t break from heartache was one. That not every relationship is a keeper was another. That this is OK was a third. That I can’t predict how things will turn out, that relationships change, that this isn’t a negative reflection of me were all truths I needed to learn and to keep as my own and that I sometimes need to be reminded of.
Deciding that risk sits on the low side of the seesaw and love sits at the top is key.
The flip side of this coin is not beating yourself up for wall building being your go-to. It’s an imperfection, for sure, but it’s also just a part of you. Once you’re aware of it, you get to step back and decide if a situation (or a person) are wall-worthy. And more often than not, they aren’t. But they just might be love-relationship-friendship-worthy. Once you see this, then one puzzle piece at a time, you can step away from your walls and toward people instead.
