Becareful with who you allow into your life.

We have to be careful with who you allow to touch your life. As a person you are a limited resource who only has a limited amount of time and there are people who come only to drain you. Drain you of your time and energy. Others are discouragers, they challenge your every idea, your dreams, or aspirations. Then there are those who complain that everything around them is wrong except for them.

Researchers had found that the #1 predictor of how happy people are is the quality of their social relationships. If you’re a person who has a good social relationship, a good network of friends, the toxicity levels are low, the health level is high you’re going to be a happier person. It is also shown that people who has good network of relationships and social friends, those are the people who tend to live longer.

Refuse to be offended. Don’t take things personally. No matter how outrageous their behavior is and how they treat you or insult you, they are revealing themselves not you. They are telling you what’s in them not in you. When people are mean, when they are controlling it says about who they are it tells you what their problem is.

HURT people, hurt people. Toxic people tend to have something internally that they are dealing with. But as mature people we must have the love and not be offended when we encounter certain types of people. When it comes to relationships, being associated with, being in agreement with or being unequally yoked a toxic person can not only impact you but also your life. Knowing someone with possible toxic traits will allow you to make decisions and evaluate. Will this person add or subtract to my relationship? If you’re around someone who has any toxic trait in them it will rub off on you… I've been hurt by multiple people in my past but I don't take it personally. I take it as a lesson and I become resilient and pick myself back up and move on.

Now the reality is there’s a lot in life you can get offended by but when it comes to personal relationships, you just have to get over it. And try not to get offended by other people. In other words if you wanted to you an have such a thin skin everything everybody does offends you and you’re going to be unhappy most of your life so you got to learn that emotional and spiritual maturity is largely determined by how you treat those who mistreat you.  Bad company will always corrupt good morals.

One of the keys to happiness in life is you need to develop a thicker skin and not just be offended by so many things. You should always have a tender heart and thick skin so not everything sets you off or offends you. One thing you can do is try to ignore it as best as possible and not let it bother you. When a fool is annoyed, they quickly let it be known but wise people will ignore an insult. So be cautious of who you allow into your life.